If you are divorced with children and use your child to relay messages to your former, you put your child in the middle of your arguments, disagreements and negotiations. This is hard for anyone, but for a child it is particularly agonizing. This often happens when it is last minute information that needs to be conveyed while parents and children are rushed, overwhelmed and already stretched.
Conveying messages in these circumstances puts added stress on the child because of the unspoken pressure placed on the child to deliver your message accurately.
CLICK HERE to watch my video on what happens to your kids when you do this and how to change it so kids don’t ever have to get stuck in the middle again.
In Support ~
Cat J. Zavis is an Attorney, Mediator, Child Advocate, Coach for Parents co-parenting their children after divorce and Author of the upcoming book, “Parenting with Your Ex: Another F***ing Growth Opportunity.” As a divorced mother of 2, she deeply understands the challenges, trauma and opportunities divorce provides. She has been practicing Nonviolent Communication, Mediation and Collaborative Law for 7 years. She conducts workshops and trainings in Nonviolent Communication for parents, lawyers, teachers, students, spiritual centers and professionals. In 2009, she was awarded a Peace Builder Award for her business. Her combination of personal experience and professional expertise give Cat a unique perspective and ability to help co parents learn to communicate effectively and powerfully to transform their relationships and interactions with their former after divorce so they and their children can thrive.
Cat can be reached at clientcare@parentingwithyourex.com
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