Tired of Feeling Powerless? The times when your fear and anxiety is front and center, you are usually defensive and reactive. You find it nearly impossible to hear the other person’s perspective let alone make the best decisions. Think of it … [Read more...]

Ever feel like this . . .? So upset you can barely control your temper? You know that exploding will not be helpful, but you can’t seem to stop yourself? Here’s a tool you can use to stop losing your temper and start winning instead. By … [Read more...]

October 28th . . . The day began as a warmish, cloudy fall day so I decided to walk to work - knowing I had a full day but feeling confident that I could get it all done. But when I arrived at work my day rapidly began to unravel! First, I … [Read more...]

How Important Is this To You? When my son was about 6 years old, we were deciding what we wanted to do. We each wanted to do something different and the conversation was quickly deteriorating into a disagreement - "I want to do X", "no I want to do … [Read more...]

Daring Questions for Deepening Honesty and Connection We all want it, crave it and search for it (even when we think we don’t). And yet many of us don’t really know how to create it - DEEP HONESTY and CONNECTION. In my then new relationship … [Read more...]

A PATH TO FREEDOM I’ve never really been one to hide my feelings or truth. In fact, many people have told me I wear my heart on my sleeve - this was NOT a compliment! Rather, it was something to avoid at all costs! So over the years, I seemed … [Read more...]

How to Transform Judgments, Criticisms and Blame We all have judgments of ourselves, our partners, our children, our parents, bosses, teachers, but none are stronger than those we have of our former partners, lovers and spouses. Why is it that … [Read more...]

As a divorced parent, I deeply know what it feels like to grieve the loss of my marriage – even though I was the one who chose the divorce, even though it has been almost 5 years since I moved out, and even though I have a fabulous new … [Read more...]

A few things I’m grateful for . . . some may even surprise you! (This list is in no particular order!) My former spouse I am grateful that we spent years together laughing, exploring, dreaming and building a future. I am especially grateful … [Read more...]

You ask your former partner or spouse to do something that you think is completely reasonable (e.g., answer your calls, respond to your emails or texts, check your availability before leaving the kids with you on his/her time). S/he refuses. You … [Read more...]