Cat J. Zavis, Counselor at Law

In Collaborative Law Practice, we work in teams with our clients to support them to transition their lives.  Rather than fight in court, we sit together in 4-way meetings to find creative solutions that genuinely meet the unique needs of our clients.  One of the many things that inspires me about this practice is that couples who are in distress and pain see their way through their differences and find their common ground and goals.  In doing so, they create solutions that support them as individuals and their children to flourish.

“The sun never says to the earth “you owe me”.  Imagine a love like that, it can light the whole sky.”  Hafiz

Can you imagine how you’d feel if you received unconditional love – truly experienced unconditional love?; where you know that you are loved and accepted regardless of what you do or how you act?  Where you are gifted what you want, not because you will do something in return, but simply because the person loves you and wants to do something for you just because of her/his love for you. . . What would the world be like if we did things for others simply because we wanted to, not because we had to, should do so, would be punished if we didn’t or are rewarded when we do. . .

In Nonviolent Communication we learn  to contribute to others simply because doing so is joyful, meaningful or important to us, not because we want something in return.  We also strive to love others unconditionally.  That does not mean we accept behavior that is harmful or that we maintain relationships that do not serve us.  But what it does mean is that we accept people for who they are and trust that each person is doing the best she/he can in each moment.  We learn to tap into each person’s humanity and move and interact from that place.

This is the true meaning of unconditional love and acceptance – a place I strive to live.

To find out about my next workshop in Nonviolent Communication go to http://catjzavis.com/upcoming-events-workshopsupcoming-events-workshops